Let’s have a discussion on this, guys.
Why do women cheat? Let’s ask this question too. Is it really a problem worth discussing? Do women cheat?
I was surfing the net when I found this beautiful piece by Olusola Adio, that perfectly answers the question. Read and let’s know if you agree with him.
I have asserted before that most men in the flesh process love through their waist & women process love through their emotions. We mentioned previously that the number 1 reason for infidelity in men is sex. It’s the strongest soul tie for men.
So by this rule, you reach a man in the flesh very quickly through sex or anything visual that suggests sex. Porn, nudes etc.
The quickest way to reach a woman is through her feelings, thoughts & cravings cos women process love through their emotions.
Why is it worth discussing?
a) Cos it’s a soul tie and it will abort the manifestation of God’s will in her life.
It will cause the woman to give up her body to a man in fornication or adultery if this soul tie happens outside marriage. Most balanced women don’t have sex as their number 1 priority like men do. Men will kill & rape but women hardly ever do.
However, a study conducted on baby Mommas revealed 75% of them saying they only tolerated the sex to get a touch. They said they wanted a touch but fleshly men hardly ever touch you emotionally without a hope for some sexual gratification.
This is the touch that Paul spoke of in 1 Cor 7:1. It’s not only physical but it’s also emotional.
1st reason why a woman would cheat is when her emotional tank goes empty while still in a valid relationship or marriage.
In the garden of Eden, the serpent came along to hold a conversation with Eve. No record of Adam ever saying anything. Some bible scholars believed that Adam had gone off into some other part of the garden and couldn’t listen in. Some others believed that Adam was listening nearby but didn’t contribute and just came along to eat the fruit as well.
Whichever school of thought you belong to, Adam was either silent or absent, while satan messed with Eve’s soul.
I want to believe that if Adam and Eve spoke long enough, there’ll be hardly room enough for satan to operate.
I also believe that if Eve guarded the loins of her mind with God’s commandment, she wouldn’t have negotiated it with satan. 2 things opened the door, lack of engagement with God’s Word and missing/absent/silent man.
This hasn’t changed over the centuries. Missing/silent fathers mostly produce emotionally vulnerable daughters. Missing/silent/absent husbands render their wives emotionally vulnerable outside the house.
It’s even worse when these women are not serious Christians so their minds cannot be guarded by God’s Word.
The ultimate tool for guarding your mind, emotions and body from sin is God’s Word. Ps 119:9 & Ps 119:11. I have seen a few real life cases and I found that their husbands were either absent or silent or missing.
It’s the major reason for flings and affairs in the workplace. An emotionally vulnerable woman is always there.
A husband can be physically present at home and emotionally missing from his wife’s heart. It’s the reason why long distance relationships were not just for me when I was a lot younger. I’m not knocking them but if you can handle them, thumbs up for you.
I know a man who went to US with a view of getting his wife & 2 kids to join when he settles down. There were no emails then and letters took weeks to reach Nigeria from US. Also, he hardly wrote. A few years later, he was back for them. He only just discovered that she had remarried and taken the kids along.
Hardworking men who work daily from dawn to dusk and are always missing from their wives run this risk.
Most men think that if the money area is sorted then their marriages are fully sorted. U are in for a shock! Most cheating wives actually have wealthy husbands who are hardly ever present. Read Prov 7:1-end for another scriptural proof of my assertion. The strange woman there was not our much maligned single lady. She was a woman married to a rich businessman. Technically, she was cheating from within a marriage.
Two reasons for her silly behavior:
One: her husband was absent. Two: she was actually a demon worshipper who raised money for demons. A lady once said all she wants is a husband who listens, so if you marry her & u don’t listen, ur marriage may suffer badly.
Married women also stylishly cheat using the popular vehicle of platonic relationships. They say: A platonic relationship is pure affection, subsisting between persons of opposite sex, unmixed wit carnal desires. I don’t dispute that definition. However, do platonic relationships always remain platonic?
Do they always remain platonic when the woman has been starved of emotional warmth in her marriage?
Do they always remain platonic when a serial male predator is the other participant? You answer that for yourselves and let’s move on quickly.
Another reason why women cheat is financial consideration.This comes at 2 levels. Level 1 is overt prostitution. Married women have been known to sneak out of home to work in brothels. Why? Can only be for money. The strange woman in Prov 7:1-end actually worked as a prostitute and she was married. She set herself up on Allen Avenue at night as a prostitute.
Before we all judge people on level 1, let’s look at level 2 very quickly. Level 2 is covert prostitution. This is done by a lot more women stylishly. There are married women who exchange sexual favours and emotional liaisons with men for financial reasons.
Let’s look at the blackberry girls in Nigeria as a classic example. They openly said on YouTube that they had boyfriends to finance their flashy lifestyles. Fast-forward 5 years and God forbid that you married one of them and there is a brief dip in your finances. She’ll go hunting for those guys again for a cash injection with strings attached to meet the shortfall.
I worked as a consultant for a bank in Lagos at a high-level so I had to sit with this branch manager all day. He was single. There was a daily stream of ladies who besieged his office on cash-for-sex visits. Sadly, a sizeable proportion of those women were married whose husbands were even known to him.
A Nigerian politician used to be well known, when I was a kid, for snatching other peoples wives. He didn’t really look great to me i.e. 6-packs etc. The only reason those married women defected was his cash.
This money reason for female cheating is definitely a significant risk in Nigeria that eligible men need to be aware of.
There’s a third reason why women cheat. —> Sex. People that marry spouses just for sexual reasons hardly realise that beauty and strength will both fade & wane over time.
The 29 year old man you married last week won’t be the same person when he turns 50. I have seen an awful mix of over-60 women allegedly finding love with some mid-20 geezers. But why why? *in Ghanaian accent*
I have seen elderly European women marrying 25 year old Nigerians & I just wondered why until … I leave you to figure the rest of that out. Y’all very sharp. Innit?
Lesson for men –> Never go missing or absent from your wife’s or daughter’s emotional lives. You leave them exposed to the enemy.
Lesson for women.When you feel yourself begin to drift, cry out to your husband instead of going outside for emotional solace.
Lesson for us all = We need to guard the loins of our minds with God’s Word to live far from these. Ps. 119:9,11
Just in case you didn’t figure the last one out. Reason why some women cheat is that they crave more viable sexual partners. #SoulTies