Do you feel like your relationship has grown stale?
Do you find yourself thinking about ending the relationship? Every relationship is different, every partner is different, everybody’s experiences are different. However, if you do not know where to start, here are 9 general signs that may indicate staying is a good idea.
1. You’re never attracted to anyone else.
Have you realized that no matter kind of troubles you have with bae or how long you have been together, you are just never attracted to anyone else? You never want to think about all the other great candidates out there — even the wealthier, more attractive, kinder ones. If so, then this is a strong sign you need to keep your relationship. Strong attraction is something most couples lack. If you have it, don’t through your love away. You might regret it.
2. You have invested a lot.
It could be time, money, children or anything else. The more you have invested, the harder you should think about walking away. It’s not always worth it to throw away important things that you have built together just because of a few misunderstandings.
3. You don’t want to be without them.
It’s obvious you’re in love because you’re in a relationship, but the bottom line is – do you enjoy being with them more than you enjoy being without them? If you’ve ever ended a relationship, then you know the “done!” feeling very well. You pack your bags, open the door, and stroll out into the world — and you don’t look back. But when a relationship is worth saving, you may find yourself feeling sick at the very thought. Chances are, if you can’t sleep at night because you feel so torn about your thoughts about leaving, it means that there are some valid reasons to consider staying and fixing what isn’t working.
4. You uplift each other.
It’s important to determine whether you lift each other up more than bring each other down. If negativity pervades every aspect of your relationship and support is lacking, you can pack up right now. On the other hand, if you find that you bring out the best in each other despite all the troubles and bickering, you can chalk it up as a sign that you should keep the relationship going.
5. You’re both communicating.
As you become more familiar with your partner, you might stop sharing things because you expect them to already know everything about you or you might not have time to tell them what happened during your work day. Communication is one of the most important parts of a relationship. If you and your partner still talk, still share daily occurrences as well as hopes and dreams, then you’re both putting forth the effort that a solid relationship requires. There’s no need to break up.
6. You share the same core values.
Sure, you two may differ on a lot of things, and that’s okay — it’s what makes a relationship fun. As long as you both share the same core values, it may be worth working through the issues. Two people are never going to agree on everything. But if there is at least a little common ground regarding religion, politics, finances, education, and the like, it means there is a decent foundation to keep the relationship going.
7. You still make each other smile.
It may sound like such a little thing, but smiling and joking is a good sign. It means there’s still something in there worth salvaging. People who don’t find anything funny or interesting in each other don’t deserve to be together.
8. There is honesty and trust in your relationship.
Honesty and trust are two very important values in relationships. Without them, your relationship will fail, and both parties will end up drowning in misery. If both of you think that trust and honesty are very important to the health of your partnership, then you should definitely keep going. Relationships are a two-way street, so if only one party values honesty and trust, it will not work out no matter how much you want to keep going.
9. The idea of your partner moving on makes you sad.
If you are oh so done, then the idea of your partner moving on doesn’t seem that horrible. But if your not? The thought of them snuggling with someone else will feel downright bad. It sickens you to know you’ve lost something so precious — the safe, loving intimacy that once defined your coupledom — and you desperately want that back, even if you’re not quite ready to do what it takes to resurrect it.