- Nathan Verhelst, 44, who was born Nancy, said his parents rejected him
- His mother reveals how she though her child ‘ugly’ and feels no sorrow
- ‘We never had a bond which therefore cannot be broken,’ she says
- Comes after Belgian euthanasia cases jumped 25 per cent in one year
- It is now the cause of nearly one in 50 deaths in the country
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The mother of the Belgian transsexual who chose euthanasia after a botched sex change left him a ‘monster’ says she’s ‘not bothered’ by her child’s decision.
Nathan Verhelst, 44, died on Monday afternoon after being allowed have his life ended on the grounds of ‘unbearable psychological suffering’.
Mr Verhelst, who was born a girl named Nancy, before his death told how he had been an unwanted child – a pain which had affected him deeply that was today confirmed by his mother.
Scarred: Nathan Verhelst, 44, who died yesterday afternoon after finding life unbearable since his sex change operation. The scars from his surgeries on his chest and forearm are visible in this photograph
‘When I first saw “Nancy”, my dream
was shattered. She was so ugly,’ she told Belgium’s Het Laatste Nieuws.
‘I had a ghost birth. Her death does not bother me.’
said the farewell letter that Mr Verhelst had written to her explaining his
reasons for choosing euthanasia had not yet arrived, adding: ‘I will
definitely read it, but it will be full of lies.
me, this chapter closed. Her death does not bother me. I feel no
sorrow, no doubt or remorse. We never had a bond which could therefore
not be broken.’
his death Mr Verhelst had spoken of how, as a child, he ‘was the girl
that nobody wanted’, describing how his mother had complained that she’d
wished he’d been born a boy.
by his parents as a girl, he became a tomboy and later a lesbian. His
transformation into a man in 2009 began with hormone therapy, followed
by a mastectomy and finally an operation to construct a penis last year.
But the procedures did not go according to plan.
Heartbreaking end: It is understood to be the first time someone in Belgium has chosen euthanasia after a sex-change, and comes soon after it emerged that it is now the cause of nearly one in 50 deaths in the country
In the hours before his death he told Het Laatse Nieuws: ‘I was ready to celebrate my new birth. But when I looked in the mirror, I was disgusted with myself.
BELGIUM’S CONTROVERSIAL EUTHANASIA LAWS
In 2002 Belgium became the second country in the world, after The Netherlands, to legalise euthanasia.
Since then, an increasing number of people have chosen to die using this method.
In 2012, 1,432 people were allowed to go through assisted suicide indicating a 25 per cent increase in the number of assisted deaths.
Guidelines set out by the country’s parliament mean patients wishing to end their own lives must be conscious when they ask to die.
They also have to be under a ‘constant and unbearable physical or psychological pain’ resulting from an ‘accident or incurable illness’.
A survey earlier this year found 32 per cent of assisted deaths are done without request and 47% of the assisted deaths go unreported.
In one case, a 44-year-old woman with chronic anorexia nervosa, an eating disorder, was euthanised, along with a 64-year-old woman who was suffering from chronic depression.
The Belgian parliament is reportedly on the verge of passing legislation that would allow people under 18 to consent to euthanasia.
‘My new breasts did not match my expectations and my new penis had symptoms of rejection. I do not want to be… a monster.’
Mr Verhelst’s decision comes amid a
fierce debate over euthanasia in Belgium, where the number of deaths due
to the controversial practice soared by 25 per cent last year.‘
Official figures showed the numbers
opting to end their lives leap from 1,133 in 2011 to 1,432 in 2012, a
figure representing about two per cent of all deaths in the country.
is legal under Belgian law if those making the decision can make their
wishes clear and are suffering unbearable pain, according to a doctor’s
The Belgian law differs from that of Switzerland, famous for its Dignitas clinic, where only ‘assisted suicide’ is permitted.
This means patients must play an active role in the administration of the drug that ends their lives.
Distelmans, a cancer specialist who carried out the euthanasia of Mr
Verhelst, is the same doctor who last year ended the lives of deaf twins
Marc and Eddy Verbessem, who were both going blind.
45-year-olds, from the village of Putte, near the city of Mechelen, had
lived together their entire adult lives and could not communicate with
the outside world.
The Dignitas building in Pfaeffikon near Zurich:
In contrast to Belgian rules, under Swiss law only ‘assisted suicide’
is permitted – meaning patients must take an active role in
administering the drug that ends their lives
WHEN THE OPERATION GOES WRONG
Suicide rates among transsexuals and those who have undergone gender reassignment surgery are high with some suggesting the rate may be as high as 31 per cent.
Chris Hyde, professor at the University of Exeter, who has studied the issues surrounding sex change operations, told MailOnline: ‘Research we conducted a decade ago found there is huge uncertainty over whether changing someone’s sex is a good or a bad thing.
‘While no doubt great care is taken to ensure that appropriate patients undergo gender reassignment, there’s still a large number of people who have the surgery but remain traumatised – often to the point of committing suicide.
‘While we haven’t looked at the situation since then, given the difficulties in researching this area, it is likely that the same issues remain today.’
brother, Dirk Verbessem, said at the time that they were terrified of
never being able to see each other and feared losing their independence
in an institution.
Distelmans agreed to end their lives – again on grounds of ‘unbearable
psychological suffering’ – after their local hospital had denied their
request for euthanasia.
Dr Distelmans told the Telegraph: ‘The choice of Nathan Verhelst has nothing to do with fatigue of life.
are other factors that meant he was in a situation with incurable,
unbearable suffering. Unbearable suffering for euthanasia can be both
physical and psychological.
‘This was a case that clearly met the conditions demanded by the law. Nathan underwent counseling for six months.’
week it emerged that a staggering one in 30 deaths in the Netherlands
are now from euthanasia, after Dutch government allowed mobile death
squads to kill sick and elderly people in their homes.
country became the first in the world since Nazi Germany to legalise
euthanasia when in 2002 it approved doctor-administered lethal drugs for
terminally ill people facing unbearable suffering.
Deaf twins chose to die after learning they would go blind
The cancer specialist who euthanised Nathan Verhelst is the same doctor who ended the lives of deaf twins who chose their fate after learning they would soon go blind.
Marc and Eddy Verbessem, pictured below, 45, had lived together their entire adult lives and could not communicate with the outside world.
Their brother, Dirk Verbessem, said they were terrified of never being able to see each other and feared losing their independence in an institution.
Marc and Eddy Verbessem, 45, had lived together their entire adult lives and could not communicate with the outside world
‘That was for my brothers unbearable,’ said Mr Verbessem, 46. ‘They lived together, did their own cooking and cleaning. You could eat off the floor. Blindness would have made them completely dependent.’
The twins, from the village of Putte, near Mechelen, were told they would go blind from a genetically caused form of glaucoma.
The pair communicated with each other using a special sign language understood only by them and their close family.
They died by lethal injection at Brussels University Hospital in Jette just before Christmas last year, dressed in new shoes and suits, with Mr Verbessem and their parents, Mary and Remy, by their sides.
Mr Verbessem said: ‘Marc and Eddy waved again at us. “Up in the sky,” they said. “Up in the sky,” we replied. And then it was over.’